Posted by ms. b. on January 24, 2001, at 11:25:39
In reply to Anthony -- one other thing, posted by gwen on January 24, 2001, at 6:54:32
Anthony & Gwen,
I read you letters and find it all so sad. I'm so sorry you have to go through this Anthony, and I agree with Gwen's advice about your wife's guilt over SOMEthing, and also Quilter's suppoert is eloquent and totally supportive and understanding.
I think her serving you the papers so quickly is a mistake she will probably regret later. Anything done in such haste, especially the destruction of a marriage, has the potential to backfire. When she gets over the anger at you, and loses the guilt (which she must someday), she might see that SHE was fully half of the relationship. Why didn't she have any close friends? What was she trying to hide? Why didn't she come to you and express her fears and her sense of hopelessness? Perhaps it could have given you both a chance to work on it together. It's such a shame, and I'm so sorry. We're here for you.
B.
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