Posted by Ant-Rock on January 18, 2001, at 19:34:25
In reply to Re: Depression poisoned my marriage, need help, posted by quilter on January 17, 2001, at 23:29:38
> Anthony, it sounds like your wife might benefit from a depression screening. It can be contagious you know. We were going through a rough patch about 5 years ago, when I was between pdocs, and it came down to - I'll go if you go. He was also diagnosed with it. My BP1 sister's husband was also taking ADs, so I would think it might be a possibility for you as well. I wonder if you have done any couples counseling? This might be a safe way to suggest an evaluation for her.
> During our own family counselling, we discovered the we had each built walls to try to shield the other from our pain but had really only succeeded in shutting each other out. We are still working on that.... I'm probably not only off base but out of line with this post. Please excuse me if so.
> QuilterNot off base at all,
There is definitely a chance that my depression became her depression, I certainly know it numbed her feelings for me. I am very confused right now because I'm dealing with lawyers on one hand,trying to protect myself, and also keeping some hope alive. My head is certainly screwed up right now. Knowing that the only reason this has happened is because of my depression, yet trying to reassure myself that I didn't ask for this to happen to me. I feel I failed my wife, myself, and our marriage because I couldn't overcome this.
These are tough times indeed.
Anthony
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