Posted by Ant-Rock on January 22, 2001, at 19:13:10
In reply to Depression poisoned my marriage, need help, posted by Ant-Rock on January 16, 2001, at 14:13:04
> It's been 3 weeks since my wife asked me to leave our home. My inability to overcome a chronic depression and the resulting problems have become to much for her to handle. We were best friends, and I was always there for her when she really needed me, but wasn't much of a husband in many ways do to this curse. I know her better than I know myself, but was oblivious to the extent of her pain, as she kept most of it in and swallowed her frustrations. She also didn't have a best friend, or any close friends to turn to and this also made things much more difficult for her to handle. If I sound like I'm sticking up for her, I am, in a way. The shock of this has pushed aside the usual depression and made me see how lifeless i truly have become. The negativity and hopelessness has finally caused her to lose hope.
> She has completly turned ice cold to me and doesn't want to talk about the situation. I have never felt so much pain and helplessnes in my life. Walking around like half a person, after 10 years of being in love.
> My life has become a record with a scratch, unable to move forward. Year after year trying to find the next med that would make me feel alive again only reinforced my hopelessnes.
> Just some feelings i felt like writing down. At rock bottom, nowhere to go but up.
> Anthony
It seems as though the situation is hopeless. I have finally gotten my soon to be ex-wife to talk to me. She has turned so cold. Says I killed a part of her. Doesn't seem concerned that it was the depression that killed our marriage, just that she was so miserable for so long, that now she just wants to be happy and alone. I can understand this, but it's hard to accept that you could spend years with someone, be best friends, and not miss them at all. Just answered the door and was served my divorce papers. Sucks. She was the best wife anyone could ask for. Can't believe I let this happen. Truly devastating.
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