Posted by Snowie on October 17, 2000, at 7:15:09
In reply to Re: A little clarification please...., posted by Greg on October 16, 2000, at 8:22:42
Greg,
I don't intend to try to answer this because I think the posts pretty much speak for themselves. Some will see it one way; others will see it another. I think it speaks volumes that Pritzker/Tei/Rzip is still here (which is good), but where is Caroline?
Another thing I've noticed is how very "cliquish" this Board is. We tend to respond to people we know quicker than those we don't. We only seem to really pay attention when someone new comes along who demands attention. However, you'll see many new names where a person quietly asks a question and no one ever responds. They leave thinking this is not a place for support. I know, because when I first posted here a long time ago, no one responded. I left, but came back months later.
Tei is getting a lot of support here, and I hope that continues. Where is the support for the quiet majority?
Snowie
> All,
>
> I need some clarification on what's being discussed here. As most of you know I came out in opposition against the original post that's being discussed here. My problem was not with the opinion expressed in the post, but the way it was chosen to be expressed.
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> I guess I'm asking about ground rules and guidelines. What type of posts might I expect support for and which ones can I expect a verbally abusive response? If I tell you that I'm having a fantasy about Friend A or Friend L, can I expect that some of you will search thru the posts and fine all the "handles" beginning with A or L and then accuse me of talking about that person? If I choose to not take your advice on a subject and continue to support my own opinion, will I be accused of not paying attention or playing games?
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> I think the real issue here is not whether Pritzker/rzip/Lei has problems which need to be addressed, I agree with all of you that is the case and I have said as much before. I think the issue is despite what your opinions may be, this person has a right to receive those opinions from all of us in a respectful and supportive manner. I think that following up a two paragraph assault
> on a person's character by saying "I could be wrong", or I hope I haven't offended you here" is simply ludicrous. It's like having your boss tell you "You did a wonderful job on the project I gave you....but"), it becomes meaningless. Leveling unfounded critizisms or character assasination without facts is just plain wrong.
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> So, I guess I'm asking some of you to clarify what is acceptable to write in order to receive support and constructive feedback at this site.
> Remember that my point here is not about anyone's right to express their opinion, it's about the words you choose to express them.
>
> Before responding, I'd ask you to go back and read the post in question here, put yourself in the shoes of a person who is lost, confused and seeking support and then decide how you would feel if the post had been left to you.
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> Quite frankly, this whole thing leaves me wondering how much of my life I can feel free to share here in the future. I've been a member of the Babble family for a long time and I find this whole thing very distressing.
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> Greg
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