Posted by Greg on October 12, 2000, at 8:27:32
In reply to Re: Walking on egg shells...All, posted by Pritzker on October 11, 2000, at 23:56:41
Lei,
What I did was not so much in defense of you as it was in defense of myself, you and everyone here who has the right to be respected and treated as a human being. If I had it to do over again, I would, whether it be you or anyone else here. I agree that you have issues that need to be addressed and I hope you work on those soon. I will be here to support you when needed, and if need be I will give constuctive critisism. But rest assured that I will never abuse you over the choices you make.
Caroline and I have no problem with each other, we just have vastly differing viewpoints. I expect her to bring it to my attention if she ever thinks I have made an innappropriate post. The wonderful thing about the world we live in is that we don't always have to agree with each other, differing opinions keep us healthy and honest. If anything, I think this will help her and I to communicate more often. Please don't worry about us, concentrate on yourself.
I hope you choose to stay, I would like to see you become a member of this family. But if your choice is to not return, please take with you my best wishes for a peaceful life and a quick recovery.
Greg
> > Greg,
>
> Thank you for your comments on my behalf in my post. Unfortunatly, Caroline, and Mark and the others are right. The only defense I have against my action is that I was in a different state of mind (literally, a different and darker state of mind). Like my mind was split. But, right now I am myself.
>
> So, my reasons for writing to you are:
> 1) Do not hold anything against Caroline. In fact, I am going to ask you to please forget about the Caroline on my post, she was just acting on a different mission.
> 2) I am glad that things are working out positively for you and your family. Keep believing in yourself.
>
> Take care,
> Lei (that's my real name)
>
> All,
> >
> > I wanted to thank all of you for your input and advice on this. I've been a lot more pro-active in letting my family and friends know how I feel about this issue (nicely of course), and most have promised to try their best to treat me normally in the future.
> >
> > I didn't realize how difficult it is for them too. Sometimes I forget how hard it is for the people who love us to watch us go thru our dis-ease. I think that in a way I should probably be grateful that they care enough about me to even consider my feelings like this.
> >
> > Oh well, live and learn right?
> >
> > Pritzker,
> >
> > Welcome to Babble! I did read your post. It was pretty late and I wasn't up to responding right then, but I will do so this afternoon. I'm glad you found us!
> >
> > Greg
> >
> > > > Greg,
> > >
> > > I just discovered this service today and I posted a long e-mail under "Pritzker". Anyway, amazingly people actually responded to it. So, now I feel I should return the favor by posting follow-up to subjects I can respond to.
> > >
> > > The same thing is happening to me where my parents are ashamed and feel a little tenative toward me. They just are so afraid of "pushing me over the edge" again. Luckily, I am not living with them, so their negativity is not affecting directly as much. But they are my parents, you know.
> > >
> > > My advice: Believe in yourself. Let your positive feelings toward yourself radiate to those in your surroundings. The idea of psychotherapy is founded upon this outward radiation of newly gained self-esteem. In the practical setting, you could physically try to take a deep breath and then expel (symbolic of making a new presence) prior to your interaction with your families and friends. During your exchanges with your families and friends, remember to focus on the goal of presenting yourself in this new light and just let your internal emotions then carry you through the social exchanges.
> > >
> > > I hope that makes sense, somewhat...
> > >
> > > Cordially,
> > > Pritzker
> > >
> > > Do any of you have family or friends that think you are incapable of handling the truth? Do they treat you like some kind of fragile figurine that will shatter into a million pieces if dropped? Do they choose their words so carefully that conversations are uncomfortable? This is happening to me.
> > > >
> > > > How do you convince these people that you want to be talked and treated like a "normal" human being? There are times when I can't handle certain conversations, but I'm completely capable of telling people that. I can say "I can't handle talking about this right now".
> > > > Don't these people understand that sheltering me can make me feel even worse?
> > > >
> > > > If anyone else experiences this and/or has found an effective way to deal with it, I'd really like to hear about it.
> > > >
> > > > My philosophy is pretty simple, life goes on with you, without you or in spite of you. I'd prefer it go on with me.
> > > >
> > > > Greg
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