Posted by Racer on October 3, 2000, at 20:21:01
In reply to Walking on egg shells...Guilty....., posted by shar on October 3, 2000, at 20:03:51
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> 2. In my therapy group, there is a woman who actually is very "fragile" (thin, wispy) looking, and had a HORRIBLE and INCREDIBLY SICK AND ABUSIVE childhood and early adulthood. It took me a year or so to believe that I could say things that might upset her and she would come out of it ok. We had several discussions on the point, and finally I have been able to let go of that worry (about 95%).
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This came up in a group I was going to about a year ago. One member of the group was feeling especially close to everyone, and admitted something that had bothered him for years and years. He'd never discussed it before, and needed to get it out. What was it? He'd been in prison years before, and killed a man there. One member of the group got very agitated, and said that she thought no one should discuss things like that in group, because they were so likely to upset other people. This led the group to state plainly that we would not allow ourselves to self-censor on the grounds of upsetting others. If we did so, we'd lose the purpose of the group: a safe place to discuss upsetting things.This is a big issue, I guess, and one we rarely mention. Hm... Gotta think on it for a while...
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