Posted by chdurie2 on September 22, 2000, at 0:49:42
In reply to Re: real life instruction manual? Hugs! » Cindy W, posted by Chris A. on September 21, 2000, at 22:21:45
> Dear Cindy -
> Read your post and am crying and praying for you. I am so glad you were able to be with her. Treasure those precious momments.
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> You are close in my thoughts and prayers.
>
> May you be blessed and find peace,
>
> Chris A.Cindy W.--I'm so sorry. I really felt a tug at my heart when you told us your mom had died really glad to know that you got to hold her hand and cover her toes. when my dad was in his last few days, the hospital staff told us they encourage 24/7 stays by family cuz terminal patients know their family is there even if they can't acknowledge it. you know that i know what you mean by the grief of never having got to know her. last week, i wrote you a long post, but then the computer ate it up, and then i've had my own stuff going on, and i haven't been able to access the site, but i've missed you - you have helped me a real lot, and i hope i've helped you. maybe, sooner or later, this will open up the way for some closeness with the rest of your family. my brothers are now civil to me, although that took years to come. and unfortunately, my mom and i are less close. but hopefully, out of all the sadness in your family, maybe you can start to talk to each other. i'm really sorry that your time with your mom was so short, but it was almost non-existent the way things were going.
On my front, my biopsy Aug. 29 turned up a tiny malignancy in my right breast, stage 1 cancer, and i went back into surgery to have it removed sept. 13. i'm going to have a big, ugly scar right up front, but no lymph node involvement, no radiation, and no chemo. and no stray cancer cells left behind, so no more surgery. there's some pain but not that much...enough that i can't work for a couple of weeks (i'm an antiques dealer, and i lift desks and such a lot.) i was really very lucky.
there's been a lot of other stuff going on, like shrink crisis, persistent-no sleep to point of zombie-land (zyprexa nixed that, thank God), and now i have 15 days to cram my ass off for the LSAT exam, oct. 7, which i have avoided for two years and really want to take and do well on.
i'm babbling, but if you want to write, my e-mail is chdurie2@aol.com.
maybe when things get back to "normal" with your family, you and i can suport each other in cleaning up our respective landfills.
cindy, i'm so sorry. you deserve better. hugs and more....caroline
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