Posted by Nadezda on July 4, 2009, at 17:16:24
In reply to Re: I never thought I'd be involved in an affair, posted by horridmonster on June 27, 2009, at 19:31:32
I would give you a push, but unfortunately, it wouldn't change what you do- You believe that what you're doing is wrong-- and you feel intense guilt-- yet you also feel that you won't be able to stop. So it's not a question of knowing what you think, or even know what you, superficially, at least, want to do. It's that you also want to continue the affair, or sexual part of the relationship.
I can think of all sorts of reasons why continuing is a bad idea-- but my reasons are not going to be meaningful, when you already have your own reasons-- and yet haven't broken things off.
This really is a situation in which you'll do what you most want to do--. I personally think you'd be well served by ending things-- and I hope you do-- but mostly I think it would be better to think more deeply about what you want, and whether you can trust this person and to act according to that.
Nadezda
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