Posted by horridmonster on June 27, 2009, at 19:31:32
In reply to I never thought I'd be involved in an affair, posted by Asya on June 26, 2009, at 21:20:53
Asya - A push in the right direction? Please consider this a gentle shove and then RUN! Breathe in and exhale all that guilt out - it's not yours. Please oh please oh please do what feels best for your self-love and self-respect. I'm hoping that means you will take yourself far from the confused man who is looking for someone else to make his decision for him. This situation could be painful for you if you stay with it. You are the only person who can make that decision, but do you want to spend time with a man who is married - even if he is in the process of separating? rise above it and trust that you deserve somebody who wants to be with only you. Treat yourself like the goddess that you are and others will notice. You know this already - that's why you posted. You do not want to be rebound chick. Especially if you work together. You owe him no explanation - He knows. But the more you "discuss" his issues, your shared dilemma, the more difficult it is to walk. Don't discuss. Tell hum he needs his space to make decisions. If he wants to talk, suggest he find a male friend to talk to. Or maybe therapy. Don't tell him your feelings. Call a friend. Post here. Take up running. Take care of you. Hang in there. Keep us posted.
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