Posted by karen_kay on January 1, 2007, at 9:22:36
In reply to Re: Anyone have letting go suggestions? » karen_kay, posted by LJRen on December 31, 2006, at 11:29:03
and i'm not (not not not) trying to talk you out of it. but, (take it from the girl who never loves anyone as much as they love her. and god, that really hurts when people say it) isn't love something that will continue to grow over time? all i mean is that if he has many of the aspects you want in a partner (is that right? am i reading wrong? it is new years day, so i can be confused a ll day today!) isn't it worth a try to see if his love can grow?
when i first read your post, i thought you wrote 'and it's not helpful'. i thought 'sheesh, today's jsut not my day'
but, sometimes it takes a while to really open up (my husband just learned last month several 'secrets' about me that just took a while to be able to be honest with him (after several years, he never knew i (shhh) bite my toenails. just imagine how long it will take for me to open up about my feelings to him! but, i love him more each day. (i'm not even certain this is helpful either but maybe he's kinda like me and takes a while (yearas and years) to bwe able to open up. i'm really glad my husband sticks with me, despite my ability to be private and secretive.)
and, have you talkked to him (is that right?) about it?
just fopr argument's sake. it just seems a shame when you fidn someone so close to what you're looking for and feeling like you have to give it up.
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