Posted by idolamine on September 10, 2006, at 22:52:29
In reply to Re: Marriage, posted by rfs on September 4, 2006, at 6:09:09
man f*ck that bitch. She's making you feel bad about yourself. Get away from her and don't talk to her and you'll feel sh*tty for awhile and then much better about yourself.
> > Could you try spending more time apart?
> >
> > Do you think that might help?
>
> Hi
> Mon-Fri we see each other briefly in the AM and then not until 7PM. I get out 1-2 nights aweek for a couple of hours. She does also on occasion. Just yesterday she made plans for both of us to go to a get together (maybe 10 people) some couples some without there spouse. Normally she has a fit if I decline an invite like that.Part of the reason is my withdrawal/isolation and part is these are work friends and they talk about work and I sit around feeling like an idiot because I don't work with them.
> Also, this is difficult to say, but when we are out in public I worry that she will embaras me. 2 examples. Sat. night, went to movie with sister & B-inlaw. While waiting outside under awning (b/c it was raining she turns around an says in a loud voice, to the womwn behind her, stop pushing me. The women had her arms folded and everybody was being pushed because more people were trying to get under the awning then posible. A few words get passes back and forth and wife says to women if you touch me again I will punch you in the face. (WIfe 48 years old-Pusher 55+) 2nd example, at a museum and about to see a short film clip. half empty seating a 12 year old girl sits in front of my wife and wife says do you have to sit right in front of me. Girls mother ushers her away. There have been numerous other incidences. She also likes to tease (embarrass) me in groups) I do a little bit of that myself. I get easily embarrassed, she almost never gets embarrassed.
> Other problem, when we drive together she is constantly giving advice, like where to park how fast to drive etc. Funny thing is she drives like a maniac. She has contol issues. I see her as unkind, lacking compassion, when she doesn't get her way she stamps her feet (Expression) I think she uses anger to contro me and others. It seems easier sometimes to give in then deal with her anger. She is a bit of a drama Queen. slams doors storms out of house when we are arguing. She goes outof her wayto find fault with something I have done. Painting, she looks for the spot I missed etc. Also, she and other family members are quick to give advice and go on and on. Doesn't matter if she has any real knowledge in the area or not. I think she has returned 99% of the gifts I have bought her. It is like she is above all of us and is supervising the world. She will not hesitate to ask me to do a 100 little chores when we are home. If I ask her for some help, she makes exscuses gets mad. She critisises almost every I do. Last point (promise) Wife likes to take the position regarding sex that she is doing me some thought of favor, as opposed to mutual enjoyment.
> Ray I guess thats enogh for now
> Ray
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