Posted by Estella on September 1, 2006, at 13:17:44
i suppose it isn't customary to say so, but i think it is true. men can be beautiful creatures. i had this conversation the other night. it involved my saying how i had steadily gained weight since my arrival in the country. and some guy said 'but surely you were underweight when you arrived and you are much healthier now'. and i was thinking 'yeah right'. but then others tagged on. and... listen to them. just listen to them. they weren't just 'saying the right thing'. and i figure... i've been worrying about my weight. as women tend to. only it isn't about weight it is about shape. that is really what it is about. our stomachs are meant to be slightly squishy and our hips are meant to be wide. we are meant to have breasts. curvy. some (most?) women are shaped like that. it is a womenly shape. and most women spend their lives trying to diet into the shape of adolescent males beacuase that is the shape we are told we are *meant* to be (by who i wonder? the gay males of the fashion industry who actually *prefer* a masculine shape????) but somehow or other we take our cue from there.
i have been beating myself up for having gained weight. yeah i am slightly squishy. doesn't feel *slightly* to me. it feels like a lot. i was starting to worry about obesity.
but these guys were serious. and i realise... somehow i managed to realise... that objectively they have more to fear from obesity than me. and what is it with these restrictions and judgements that women put on themselves???
they *meant* it. hard to believe, yes. but i have no reason to doubt them. they can be brutally honest and there is no reason why they wouldn't have been anything other than brutally honest with me. they don't see me as overweight. they thought i was underweight upon arrival. what do women do to themselves? men can be beautiful beautiful creatures. women worry... and worry... and don't believe... and judge one another... and men are just... wonderful. and accepting. how beautiful is that?
sometimes... i do just love guys. i do. guys can be very beautiful creatures indeed.
poster:Estella
thread:682052
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