Posted by Jost on August 31, 2006, at 23:36:55
In reply to Re: Confusion and my racing mind » Jost, posted by Wildflower on August 31, 2006, at 12:42:35
Hi, Wildflower.
I'm sorry this is so disturbing and agitating.- You'll find your footing again, despite the upheaval.One thing to remember is that other people remain partly unknown, even partly unknowable. You can trust, and find that trust is well placed. But it's always a gamble. Often, these parts of the other person remain private to t hem. Or they can surface, unexpectedly, and vanish again.
There were times when I'd run away from people, and later wish it hadn't "happened". (Which is how I tended to remember it.) It did take time, usually. After a while, the loss or missing would become more powerful, and then I was much more open. There was at least one time that I did get back with someone, but it depends so much on opportunity, circumstance, and other things.
It may not be a permanent end. It's just hard to know, right now.
Trite as it may be to say-- what happened probably has more to do with him, than you--that is, some difficulty that he ran up against-- not some fault or lack in you.
That really is true, much as it may sound like a false reassurance.
Just remember that you're okay-- and will go on-- even if the loss feels really awful now.
Jost
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