Posted by Jost on August 31, 2006, at 10:24:32
In reply to Re: Confusion and my racing mind » Phillipa, posted by Wildflower on August 31, 2006, at 8:36:31
You deserve an answer, and should give him a call/email at least once. If you haven't.
He may have told you all he knows. He may have a feeling of discomfort with the closeness-- for some reason. He may not know why, or have a vocabulary for thinking/talking about that.
But you never know. Maybe talking would give you "closure.' Maybe not. Ultimately, though, he doesn't want to pursue a deeper relationship- it's enigmatic, like many things-- despite any and all explanations.
I'd guess it was so abrupt because he freaked out. Maybe the signs were there--more likely they were under the surface, or he experienced it more when he wasn't with you== maybe fear, uncertainty, anxiety. Then, he ran into a wall-- and sent the email.
I've done that with people. Not the email part, but the seeming to like (and liking) them a lot, but having inner, suppressed, but pushing-through-to-the-surface panics. And at some point that would take over.
That's my best guess. But it mine, and it's just a guess.
I'm sorry you were the other person in that situation if that is at all the case. It's not fun, on either side, though.
Hoping things are feeling a little less bleak today.
Jost
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