Posted by Wildflower on August 31, 2006, at 12:42:35
In reply to Re: Confusion and my racing mind » Wildflower, posted by Jost on August 31, 2006, at 10:24:32
Thanks Jost. Your post made sense to me and gave me a brief moment of calmness.
> You deserve an answer, and should give him a call/email at least once. If you haven't.
I sent one reply to his email asking (in a very polite way) the reason but never heard back. One attempt to find the answer was all I was willing to risk. I'm not the type to keep calling/emailing.
> He may have told you all he knows. He may have a feeling of discomfort with the closeness-- for some reason. He may not know why, or have a vocabulary for thinking/talking about that.
We talked openly about everything - even issues with closeness that we both had. That's what made him so special -- his willingness to communicate even with difficult topics. The irony is unbelieveable.
> I'd guess it was so abrupt because he freaked out. Maybe the signs were there--more likely they were under the surface, or he experienced it more when he wasn't with you== maybe fear, uncertainty, anxiety. Then, he ran into a wall-- and sent the email.It's a good possibility I suppose.
> I've done that with people. Not the email part, but the seeming to like (and liking) them a lot, but having inner, suppressed, but pushing-through-to-the-surface panics. And at some point that would take over.
Did you ever have the strength to resume a relationship with the person?
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