Posted by susan47 on August 5, 2006, at 22:00:57
In reply to Re: please be civil » LindaRG, posted by Dr. Bob on June 23, 2006, at 2:22:00
I don't know any of you personally. And I don't know the many sides of the story, and I don't care to upset anyone. But I do know my own personal experience, very very lately. Now I know that yes, I was right on track with a man I very recently dated, and I know that there are men out there who are as nice as you please, but the signs are there if you look and sometimes you don't have to be looking very hard, and if you don't see it then you have only yourself to blame. Because guys like the one I dated, really do exist. There is no excuse for anyone not to know that. Duplicity, multiple affairs, lying and cheating .. you betcha ... men (and this does NOT refer to Larry, I don't know him) can be CAN be but are NOT always, not necessarily do they ever act out on this, but men are wired baby, hardwired for sex. And if they don't have a good enough reason to turn it off, they won't. It's too much of a struggle. Listen to this, from "The Female Brain" by Louann Brizendine, M.D. - "...Men, by contrast, have two and a half times the brain space devoted to sexual drive as well as larger brain centers for action and aggression. Sexual thoughts float through a man's brain every fifty-two seconds on average...."
It takes a real Man to control himself. It does. And take his attention and put it where his commitments lie.
And that's where other people get hurt. Lonely people, men and women both. There's a looooot of lonely people out there. Yup.
I'm not meaning to upset anybody. I'm not wanting to horn in on anybody's business. It's only an opinion and it's mine and I own it.
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