Posted by caraher on April 17, 2006, at 9:52:19 [reposted on April 19, 2006, at 0:04:48 | original URL]
In reply to This may not be appropriate but it's bothering me., posted by madeline on April 15, 2006, at 11:54:18
There are certainly as many ways men view women as there are men and women for them to "view..."
The closest I come to viewing women as "sex objects" (among women with whom I actually have any kind of genuine interaction) would be those I find personally unpleasant but physically attractive. I don't think the latter has ever outweighed the former for me, so I tend to interact as little as possible with them beyond looking at them.
It's just different in every case, with different amounts of sexual desire mixed in. If anything I tend to exaggerate in my mind the positive nonphysical attributes of women I'm attracted to, rather than strip those away in deference to pure "animal attraction." At the same time I don't doubt that there are men out there who tend to frame their interactions with women in primarily sexual terms.
I guess I'd say the bottom line is that it is not true that "all men just want X" any more than it would be true to claim "all women just want Y." There may be trends but if you want to be treated as an individual by men you ought to accept them as individuals as well.
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