Posted by greywolf on April 15, 2006, at 12:48:18 [reposted on April 19, 2006, at 0:04:44 | original URL]
In reply to This may not be appropriate but it's bothering me., posted by madeline on April 15, 2006, at 11:54:18
> I have a lot of trouble with the whole male/female relationship and I'm trying very hard to understand it.
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> It's like I'm locked into this bad thinking that men really only view women as sex objects and don't really respect us as people at all.
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> Does anyone here have any insight as to how men truly view women?
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> Thanks for any input
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> Maddie
In my view, women who want to be viewed primarily as sex objects will find guys happy to accomodate that desire as long as those women have the necessary qualifications.Conversely, women who prefer to be appreciated primarily for their intelligence and substance will likely find guys to accomodate that desire as long as those women have the necessary qualifications.
The difficulty seems to arise when one is attractive but without substance or intelligent without physical beauty, yet still desires to be appreciated for a quality she doesn't have. For instance, if a woman looks like Julia Roberts, but she can't name the Secretary of State or she knows who Rice is but she's more interested in what type of shoes she wears, she may be wasting her time pining away for someone who appreciates her intellectual prowess.
If a woman has both beauty and substance (which is really more than just intelligence, and includes common sense, wit, grace, compassion, etc.), she will generally be able to identify and avoid men who desire her for reasons she does not respect.
Does that make any sense?
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