Posted by Dinah on April 15, 2006, at 14:13:38 [reposted on April 19, 2006, at 0:04:44 | original URL]
In reply to This may not be appropriate but it's bothering me., posted by madeline on April 15, 2006, at 11:54:18
Well, I'm not a man. But I have been on intimate (in the emotional sense, not the physical) terms with more than one.
And for the most part they don't seem to view women much differently than I view men. Sure there are men who I enjoy looking at for prurient reasons. Moreso if they're in positions that tend to lend themselves to that sort of thought. Or Dr. Drew just for existing. No wait. He talks mainly of sex, so he probably falls in that category too. But it certainly isn't automatic, and it can be put aside if I am also interacting with the man in question.
I will admit however, that my intimate friends are a small subset of all men, and may not be a representative sample.
However, my first thought would be that it's not really much different to view women only as sex objects than it is to view men only as people who view women only as sex objects. :)
People are people, and they're individuals first, and men and women second. Any individual man may be more like an individual woman than another individual man, and vice versa.
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