Posted by jonquiljo on March 6, 2006, at 14:19:18
In reply to Re: I don't feel loved in my marriage. I am sad » Tanzanite, posted by Shame on March 6, 2006, at 12:13:28
I definitely can relate to ALL of this! Though we have gone through recent tragic times, the problem still remains that my wife and I don't have it nearly as together as we would have wanted it to be.
I think this is a common condition - we all get into ruts, especially when they get bad. So yes, Tanzanite, I can see how you have gotten into a rut. When it comes to saving my marraige - I say ,"lets try". Perhaps if you sat down with him and let him know how terrible things have gotten for you - he might get a glimse of reality. I certainly have, when my wife sat me down and told me how I have been terribly inadequate.
People get in ruts, and marraiges get in ruts. Most importantly, people get into ruts when it comes to relationship dynamics. I truly believe that no marraige is ideal, and perhaps you can save yours. Perhaps I can even same mine as well.
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