Posted by Tanzanite on March 2, 2006, at 14:41:39
In reply to Breaking the skin. *Trigger*, posted by Shame on March 2, 2006, at 14:05:26
My husband very well knew how I was and what my condition was before we got married. I was very open and honest about everything. But, you know what it doesn't seem to have mattered. He still doesn't take the most serious situations seriously enough which makes it even worse. I think sometimes folks turn to omission because they don't feel their partner will understand. Well, when I don't use omission I really don't think my own husband has really even grasped what I am trying to say sometimes. So I guess it can go either way. I really hope your wife can come to a point where she understands better why you are able to talk so clearly about things, and that it is just how you are and that does not necessarily mean you are going to hurt yourself. I also hope she listens to you and grasps the warning signs you have given her. I wouldn't know how to go about explaining some things like you have asked. Because I have had difficulties with that myself. However, since my husband sometimes takes on the air that I just feel sorry for myself. When I have talked wanting to not be here anymore after a bad fight he just shuts down. I also wonder what I have in common with my own husband. I love him so much, but I am afraid that his "I accept you" was actually I will continue to battle against your illness and the things that you cannot change. That is how I feel sometimes. Ever go through that?
Peace
Tanzanite
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