Posted by jonquiljo on January 29, 2006, at 14:54:37
In reply to my relationship (long, blah), posted by alesta on January 27, 2006, at 9:54:54
Alesta,
My heart goes out to you as it sounds to me like you are in a horrid relationship. Personally, I would get away from him as fast as possible as he sounds quite unpredictable. No one deserves what you are going through. In my own way, I can relate to the horror of walking on eggshells every time you are in the room with him.
You may not want to think it is abuse - but really, it is abuse! You say, "he minimizes everything he does...always puts it back on me. he always tries to make everything my fault." This is bad enough. But to be under the threat of physical harm is really over the top.
It sounds like you are torn by your feelings for him, and men in general. Unfortuanately, most people - men and women - feel this way at some time or another. There is romantic love - just not here. You will probably have a supportive and loving relationship in your future - just not here.
There are good and supportive people on this board - they can help you. I am new here, but am constantly astonished by people's compassion, honesty and intelligence. They can get you through this.
I do know from personal experience that things can get better (in the long term). While it may not be what you would want in the short term - things tend to sort themselves out. I'm definitely rambling - so I will stop now. Please give yourself some credit and get away before you get hurt. Good luck.
Jon
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