Posted by ClearSkies on October 25, 2005, at 6:56:29
In reply to Re: broken heart, posted by d1alla on October 25, 2005, at 6:04:03
> He was my best-friend,the love of my life and my whole world. I presume it was the same for you.
>I presume you had days where u really felt like there was nothing left for you in life and nobody who understood or cared for that matter. I have always been bad at coping with things and it makes something so big extremly painful.
He was my husband for 18 years. We had made a life together, and when that life ended I was devastated; just torn down and left crumpled on the ground. I then went from being a heavy drinker to becoming a full fledged alcoholic. I lost job after job, struggling with the new definition of who I had become without my ex husband. The grieving process is no different, no matter what we have lost in our lives. it doesn't even matter who initiated the end of the marriage! - a loss is a loss.
Although our relationship's time span differs from your circumstances, the reason and result for our breakup was the same. Our lives' paths diverged and being together was no longer a possibility. Although I have remarried since then (6 years ago), I still live with the effects of the divorce, every day. Therapy has been the best thing for me; next to my sobriety. I longer beat myself with a figurative willow branch at what I lost when the marriage ended. It has taken so much time to do this!! So much longer than I ever thought it would.
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