Posted by alexandra_k on October 19, 2005, at 19:53:26
In reply to Re: romantic love » alexandra_k, posted by Declan on October 19, 2005, at 14:48:46
> The soulmates thing seems to come from New Idea or Womens Day, I take the use of it as some sort of educational marker (in my generally superior way).
lol. but then it is also there in fairytales.
> I think we are creatures who are designed to fall in love, and do so readily enough with our parents.that might be a bit different. i dunno. i'm trying to get into the spirit of an evolutionary biological approach to the function of different emotions. i guess attachment (happy when around) is useful with respect to our parents. so that they care for us. the reproduction kind of love might be a bit different. a different mechanism. a different emotion...
> We used to be more tolerant of cheating (as it's come to be known) when appearances mattered more.
?? How do you mean?
> I live in an area where most couples consider it obligatory to split up so as to avoid the appearance of codependance.
lol. before or after children are independent?
> 'And they saw one another as people for the first time. And things deteriorated from there.' Liked that.:-)
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