Posted by Declan on October 19, 2005, at 14:48:46
In reply to Re: romantic love, posted by alexandra_k on October 19, 2005, at 3:54:32
The soulmates thing seems to come from New Idea or Womens Day, I take the use of it as some sort of educational marker (in my generally superior way).
I think we are creatures who are designed to fall in love, and do so readily enough with our parents. As we get older it becomes less compelling and frequent. It's been around for ever. We used to be more tolerant of cheating (as it's come to be known) when appearances mattered more. That might have made a space for romantic love (mainly for men and adventurous women). By the time they had done the romantic attachment to their children maybe the women then didn't mind overly. (50 years ago, say).
I think it's the most fascinating state.
I live in an area where most couples consider it obligatory to split up so as to avoid the appearance of codependance.
'And they saw one another as people for the first time. And things deteriorated from there.' Liked that.
Declan
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