Posted by felicity77 on September 20, 2005, at 21:13:59
In reply to I feel like a freak..., posted by TexasChic on September 20, 2005, at 17:09:27
Hey,
You are not a freak at all. A lot of people take a while to figure out who they are and it is only then that you are really ready for a relationship anyway. It sounds like you have worked through difficult issues and now you are ready to meet someone. That is great!
I know it is not easy to meet people, but a lot of folks are out there looking for a sensitive person such as yourself. I think the easiest thing to start doing is to find some activities you enjoy, and join clubs. There are clubs for just about anything. Do you sing? Do you play a sport? Would you want to learn? Another way to meet someone is to join a volunteering group. You will usually meet quality people who are into meaningful activities.
If that isnt yielding what you want, there are tons of dating services out there. I dont think it is embarassing to try them. Lots and lots of people meet online. You might try one of those. YOu can start by writing to someone. There is some uncertainty there of course, but it works out for people...a lot. I know tons of people who have met online.
Finally, you probably dont realize it, but if you have worked through a difficult past and are now feeling ready for a relationship, that will make one more likely. People can usually read others well, and they can tell if someone is open to meeting other people.
Thats my two cents. Best of luck to you. You are not a freak at all. Sounds like you are a complicated human being who is about to start a new chapter...
Regards,
felicity> I'm 35 and never had really any type of relationship with a guy. I've had a couple of one night stands, and that's it. I feel so desperate.
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> I know the reason for it, I was so depressed for years and had such low self esteem triggered by a disfunctional childhood. But that's not exactly something you can tell someone.
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> I've never even been on a real date. I don't know what to do, I feel so sad and screwed up. I know I'm at least semi-attractive. I just feel like something's wrong with me. I find myself so jealous of other people that have a significant other. I don't even know what that's like.
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> I feel like I will die alone.
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