Posted by ClearSkies on September 1, 2005, at 6:18:00
In reply to Needing more -- feeling unattractive, posted by Racer on August 31, 2005, at 0:56:02
OK, so my advice differs a bit here. If you're not the sexy lingerie type of person, I wouldn't start it now in the attempt to draw attention from your husband. I'm not one for seduction if that's not part of your natural makeup. Keep the underwear on if he's not going to notice that it's missing.
I think the answer might be in more direct communication - TALKING to each other - about how your body has changed. Did he used to ravish you and now he doesn't? Or has he never been a ravisher and now that you feel uncomfortable about how you look, it's become a problem (can I suspect the latter?).
Hugging standing up can lead to interesting things, and maybe you two can explore that! I do think that a frank discussion, maybe lubricated by some wine or cocktails if it's something that doesn't come easily to you, will at least get the beast of intimacy out of its closet.
love and hugs,
ClearSkies
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