Posted by caraher on August 31, 2005, at 11:00:00
In reply to Re: Needing more -- feeling unattractive » Racer, posted by crazy teresa on August 31, 2005, at 3:03:05
I agree with theresa that you need to act the way you want to be, even if you don't feel it yet. At *least* half of being attractive is not acting as if you aren't!
Try not to fret about your weight in front of your husband. What you choose to talk about directs his attention to that subject. If your talk centers around the defects you perceive in your appearance he can't help but notice it more. (Nothing primes one to think about elephants more than the command, "Don't think about elephants!") My wife apparently has gained some weight lately (maybe 10 pounds?) but I wouldn't have particularly noticed if she hadn't spontaneously talked about needing to lose weight, etc. etc.
I know you're probably talking about a more substantial weight gain, and you'd both rather have you weigh less for both health and aesthetic reasons. But that's a long-term issue. Just ask yourself what you can do today to make this day better for both of you and try to act accordingly. Be patient with yourself - life is worth it at any weight!
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