Posted by gardenergirl on August 26, 2005, at 15:17:46
In reply to Re: On the other hand... » gardenergirl, posted by AdaGrace on August 25, 2005, at 16:36:31
Then reply "You are responsible for your own behavior. If I could cause your behavior, believe me, I'd cause you to act very differently."
And if he continues, use fogging ("I understand how it might feel that way to you.") and broken record ("But you are responsible for your own behavior.") to keep him on the topic. And set a limit for what you will and will not tolerate. The hard part then, is following through with that limit.
And I know this is all easy for me to write. It's much harder in the moment. Is this something you can work on with your T, if you have one?
gg
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