Posted by sunny10 on June 27, 2005, at 11:53:27
In reply to I'm afraid of people, posted by alexandra_k on June 26, 2005, at 20:11:14
you're here.
The therapists say that in order to get over our insecurities, we have to be able to name them in order to start.
you're not naming yours, Alex. You're not afraid of people, you're afraid of how you interact with them. you're afraid of letting someone get close enough to hurt you like the last one hurt you.
And as I write this, "you" is me. I'm in a relationship now, but am still so scared that he'll leave me like all of the others, I am f*cking it up all on my own. I am just trying to keep my mouth shut at this point and not sabotague myself in this relationship (at least while I am vulnerable and depressed)...But between relationships, I always isolate, too.
If my "transference" isn't right on the money with you, too, please forgive me.
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