Posted by sunny10 on May 13, 2005, at 9:00:12
In reply to Re: Pffft, a GUY?????, posted by alexandra_k on May 13, 2005, at 5:42:02
how 'bout a trip to the local sextoy shop???
Geez, you don't need the GUY, just some good fantasies (no, Suze, not ex-T... HEALTHY fantasies... maybe a movie star you think is hot or something?) and a plug-in or battery operated device...
Sorry, chairman, this is NOT about anti-guy... it's about learning how to please yourself so that you can LOVE a man like chairman, not NEED a guy like ex-T or the drug-using ex, et cetera.
Love is so much better when it's something you want instead of something you need.
We need to separate basic human needs (horniness) from relationships (love and respect and intimacy and goodness).
When you have a good relationship, the sex is always good.... but when you have good sex it doesn't mean the relationship is good...
So let's focus on starting relationships after we learn to satisfy the NEED for sex by ourselves...
What do you think of my theory????
poster:sunny10
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