Posted by littleone on April 14, 2005, at 21:17:50
In reply to Rekindling old friendships, posted by Miss Honeychurch on April 14, 2005, at 15:12:16
Miss Honey, if you were my old friend and wanted to rekindle the friendship, I would be thrilled to pieces. You're such a sweet person.
It's possible that they were hurt by you cutting them off, especially if they didn't understand the problems you were having. But I think that if you explained why it happened, it would help heal those hurts.
I think phoning them would be best. It would ensure that there were no misunderstandings (like there can be with the written word) and it would start to build your bond again immediately (ie I think talking would do that more effectively than writing).
Although it is the scarier option.
Also, you say you are mortified at how you treated them, but please remember that you did what you had to do to pull yourself through such a difficult time. As you say, you weren't nasty to them, so it could have been a lot worse. I'm guessing the only way you could have handled it better was if you reached out to them and let them help you. And I don't know about you, but that option certainly isn't on my list of coping methods. Yet. If it was, I guess I wouldn't need therapy in the first place :)
Anyway, I guess I'm saying, don't be too hard on yourself.
Good luck with whatever you decide! I hope it works out with them.
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