Posted by 10derHeart on March 1, 2005, at 23:14:06
In reply to thank u, posted by jenn007 on March 1, 2005, at 7:13:42
hi again,
I do think couples counseling can work. Definitely, if both partners are serious and open-minded about it. Not to be so stereotypical, but that seems more of a challenge for many men. Not entirely their fault, the way most are still socialized and/or raised not to talk about or even acknowledge feelings. But your mention of trying to stay together as a family is wonderful. Dads are so very important,IMO. Of course, it depends on each situation, and what's safe and healthy for you and your child.
I like your idea to see a therapist (or at least online) alone, too. Seems wise to take care of *you* as much as possible, for strength to face whatever happens down the road. And like Susan said, it's a great sign with offering the cell #, truly. If you get to needing input on the topics of therapy or therapists, wander over to the Psychology Board and post away - it's usually very active. (My home away from home)
Best to you at the OB. There are so many ADs other than Effexor, I'll bet there is one out there for you. I am so very fortunate to have great results with good old reliable Prozac, which I've taken several times in the past ten years, along with therapy, and it's always *supported* me just enough. Blunts the worst emotional pain, and kind of levels out mood swings and the worst of the apathy, so I can function enough to benefit from therapy and lifestyle changes. I hope the same or better for you.
I'm curious, knowing very little about PPD (that's one time I wasn't depressed - go figure) if you feel like saying, did the PPD lift by itself? Just over the passing of time? Since the Effexor was awful for you, did you quit taking it and go without? I'll bet that was a rough spot, too.
You've been through a lot. What's nice is I detect optimism and a drive to help yourself in your writing. So no matter how often/long you've been feeling so low, that spark is present. It's a mark of hope, I'd say, and it's something to cherish. Babble can be a place to recharge it, if it gets depleted :) Let us know how things go.
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