Posted by Broken on January 25, 2005, at 18:03:51 [reposted on January 25, 2005, at 22:51:23 | original URL]
In reply to Having a partner who's different from you, posted by Angela2 on January 23, 2005, at 12:24:28
Actually, I think it's great that you're giving it alot of thought.
Let me give you a very brief (as brief as I can be) example of why I say that. I got married out of, let's just say stupidity. I wanted to "be married". I met this wonderful girl, I mean sure, I was only 17 and she was 24, but I was a man (chuckle) I knew what I wanted. We talked about marriage a bit too soon, like I dont know, an hour after our first date... We dated for 6 months, and anyone who tried to talk me out of it, got grief. The more people pushed, the harder I pushed back.
Just before I was to get married, about 2 hours before I went to the church, I went and got my hair cut and while talking to the stylist about the wedding, who was really sexy by the way, I realized I had screwed up. But, I made my bed, so it was time to lie in it. I married her, we were together for 9 miserable years. I finally divorced her, and felt horrible doing that, but she's remarried now, and very happy. We've talked several times and agreed it was a good thing I did it. But man, that's a hell of a way to spend 9 years.Take your time, don't settle for anything less than what it takes to make you happy and for God's sake don't waste 9 years of your life being noble, it ain't worth it.
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