Posted by Susan47 on January 23, 2005, at 13:33:14
In reply to Having a partner who's different from you, posted by Angela2 on January 23, 2005, at 11:37:19
The Voice of Experience (at least this li'l one) says that the more I have in common with someone, the easier everything is. So if (geez it's weird you bring this up, this hit me like a ton of bricks yesterday) so if, for example, I'm an easygoing person who doesn't like to see the worst in everything and my husband DOES see the negative side of everything and insists that I must fight the status quo or I'm backsliding, well, that makes me feel bad about myself. But really, there's nothing wrong with the way I am, I'm just wired differently and it's important for me to have a partner who's wired the same way so that I DO feel good about myself. Now that may mean that we're somewhat lackadaisical about money, maybe money isn't the most important thing to me, but if it's important to him, well then, we're not going to be happy together.
I'm a creative type. I like to do things with my mind, artsy-fartsy airy-fairy things and my friends are like that too. I have no practical friends. Practical people are like a damp dishrag sitting on my face. They inspire feelings of inadequacy in me. So I stay away from them, unless I'm at work and that's the way it is. That, I can deal with.
Also, I like to explore the deeper facets of ourselves, and people who aren't emotionally smart or emotionally responsive or deep thinkers are like a walk through mud, for me. So, once again, I'm learning how to say no, thanks.
I don't know if it helped you but it helped me to write this:)
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