Posted by smokeymadison on January 23, 2005, at 16:17:52 [reposted on January 25, 2005, at 22:51:23 | original URL]
In reply to Having a partner who's different from you, posted by Angela2 on January 23, 2005, at 12:24:28
Matt and I are pretty different. we have completely different ideas about politics and religion. we just don't discuss those topics on a regular basis or when we aren't in our best moods. we click about 70% of the time. feelings of love come and go for me. i have really worked on my anger towards him the past week and as soon as i had some things cleared up, all the love feelings came rushing in.
nobody clicks all the time. i would give it a few weeks and see what you think then. when we are apart, we really don't talk that long at a time on the phone. of course, i am not much of a phone person. i would say that as long as the conversation on the phone is not strained, then that is all right. it sounded as if it were pretty neutral in your post. not exciting, just boring. it probably shouldn't happen all the time, but it does happen to everyone occationally at least. i wouldn't get too worried if the relationship has its dull moments.
about the guy seeing you for who you are--sometimes i wonder if Matt really knows me. and we have been together for a year and three months now. he asked me the other day if i chewed my nails. i am like, you should know that i don't! how could he not know that bit of trivia? about seeing me through all of my mental disorders--i think that it is really hard for people who don't have them to understand. as long as the guy or girl tries to understand, the relationship can work. it takes years for people to get to really know each other, i am finding that out. it isn't a bad thing, in fact, it keeps things interesting. gives you something to talk about. good luck!
SM
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