Posted by JenStar on November 6, 2004, at 14:33:46
In reply to Please Help!, posted by Susan47 on November 5, 2004, at 21:04:49
hi Susan,
welcome back to the board! Good to see you posting again. :)About your letter...I was thinking about it and I wondered this: Is it possible that on a subconscious level you purposely neglected to save a copy....as an excuse to initiate some kind of conversation/interaction with him if you decided to go back and ask for a copy?
I know you've been struggling to get the obsession with him out of your life and it sounds like a very hard task indeed! As long as I've known you on this board your obsession with him has been a constant in your life, and a constant source of pain. I truly hope it subsides....and that you're able to let him go.
It may be hard to see it now but you're probably going to be a LOT better off and have more time for YOU when thoughts of him aren't constantly creeping into your mind...
My advice would be (for what it's worth!) to let go of him, the letter, and thoughts of contacting him. Don't try to get in touch b/c it will only be more pain for YOU -- it will only revitalize the fire you feel for him. I really think that the more time you spend away from him, with no contact, the better the feelings for him will fade away.
Anyway, I truly do feel for you. It's so easy to sit here and give advice, but I know it's a lot tougher to carry it out when you're the one in the difficult situation.
Hang in there! :)
Things will get better.
And it really is good to see you back here on the board!What have you been up to lately? Anything new, exciting -- seen any good movies, ready any books you'd recommend?
take care,
JenStar
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