Posted by rskontos on October 15, 2014, at 19:34:53
In reply to Re: MIA but back now...Triggers!Possible » baseball55, posted by Twinleaf on October 10, 2014, at 8:43:39
> That actually sounds very reasonable. You have accomplished so much, and do have another therapist who has also been very helpful, even though the emotional connection is not the same, quite. We are probably lucky if we can experience this intense connection with a therapist once in a lifetime, and it is to be treasured and valued forever.
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> I might be in the same situation as you - occasional visits- except that mine retired fully and moved cross country. Because of that, we spent a year and a half grieving and saying goodbye. I am glad it worked out that way, as I now feel more complete in myself, and do not have a need to call or fly out to see him ( which he said I could do). But these things are so complex and multi-facetted; there's certainly no one right way to do it.My wonderful p-doc that passed away was like the father i never had. One time when he was pushing me to graduate school I ranted at him for being too pushy and he replied that he realized he was being pushy and would relent some on that front but he said I won't apologize because I am being the father you never had. We did not have much transference unless you call that transference but he was a very healthy doctor who talked about transference and counter-transference early on stating it was inevitable but how it went would be his job to monitor. I feel all in all it was a growth experience for me no matter how you define it. My biggest loss was his death without knowing anything about it until I needed him badly. That being said it all lead me to my new therapist who is a gem too. Different from each other Dr S and Dr K but both very valuable.
I think in both cases Baseball and Twinleaf's a certain amount of identification with these therapist led to greater growth for you both and that is successful therapy to me.
Dr Bob, I am not sure why you asked but I hope you feel that in all three cases this is successful therapy. I know in my case it was, not at all smooth and silky road but growth I can see now.
I am down today but not like in the past. Things are rough at home but I am making progress in that I am moving forward, eating well, working out, writing on my projects, doing things in the house that I need to do--all despite feeling sad and down. Progress to me...
Reaching and finding that wonderful therapist is vital to each of us. I wish others well in their search and success. I am not sure where I would be now without Dr S. and now Dr K.
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