Posted by baseball55 on April 5, 2014, at 20:43:09
In reply to Re: don't know what to do, posted by alexandra_k on April 5, 2014, at 16:37:05
> 'good social skills' is about manipulating other people to get what you need. i do not have.Actually, this isn't true Alex and the fact that you see it this way makes, I think, your life harder. Good social skills is about having empathy, putting yourself in other people's shoes, trying to see the best in people, doing for others as you would have them do for you.
Being compassionate, understanding, looking clearly at oneself and one's own impact on people.You are so hostile and contemptuous of the mental health workers. Mental health workers, whatever their flaws and limitations, tend to be fairly sensitive to interpersonal relationships. So it's most likely that they feel very keenly your contempt. And try to diffuse it, which you see as patronizing, etc.
I hope you can get a referral to someone you feel okay about working with, who is not an "idiot."
But here's how I react to your posts. I spent four years going in and out of psych hospitals, in therapy, etc.. I loved almost every treater I met and had great respect for them. I met a woman a few years ago in AA. Whenever I talked to her, she would talk about interactions she had with people, whom she described as a**holes, idiots, etc. I finally said to her - how is it that you meet these a**holes all the time, and I never do? Do you think it might have something to do with you?
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