Posted by Willful on March 8, 2014, at 17:11:17
In reply to Re: My therapist on extended leave, posted by Dinah Seeks Support on March 8, 2014, at 9:28:14
Hi Dinah,
One thing I want to say is that if possible, you need to try to remember that often there are explanations and circumstances that make seemingly uncaring actions understandable and even inevitable, .
It often seems as if the thoughts we have are the only possible explanation or meaning of an event or decision -- and yet, finally, it is revealed that we were completely mistaken and all the bad feelings and self-torture were unfounded.
The one thing you need to rely on is the feeling you had when you were with him-- if you felt that there was a real and important relationship-- there was.
The idea that he deceived you is just so mistaken, Im sure. It's what you fear-- but it's not what is.
Whatever is going on-- and I hope it is not some serious illness on his part-- I'm sure it's very disruptive of his life-- perhaps someone in his immediate family is sick-- or some such thing-- I hate to speculate becayse there are always reasons that none of us will hit on. Whatever caused him to send out this impersonal note, it was a terribly insensitive in its effect-- and you have every right to feel angry and abandoned-- no matter what explanation there is.
But hold off on the believe that this has all be meaningless and fruitless-- because whatever else it has been, it has been far from that.
Emsam.
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