Posted by Moishe Pipik on December 16, 2013, at 10:23:55
In reply to Re: Getting along in a sh*t-slinging world, posted by Dr. Bob on December 12, 2013, at 10:04:57
> If no one has a shield, maybe I should block the slinger. But if no one with a shield cares to get involved, maybe it makes sense to focus on that.
I have a shield, mostly basic logic/critical thinking, reinforced by stuff I've learned since reading "Emotional Intelligence", which I highly recommend.
I've already expressed many of my thoughts elsewhere, so I'll try to be brief. The perception of feces-slinging is in the eyes of the beholder - note that not everyone is complaining about it. It seems some here are misinterpreting my comments as "get over it" or "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" stuff. They would be wrong. I simply ask that the chronically-insulted at least CONSIDER the possibility of having other responses, even NO response to said insults. I realize that it might seem impossible to some, but it's not. Maybe Bob simply realizes that PB is no different than real life, in that there is no utopia, and trying to create one is frought with unintended consequences.
I may be miffed about such-and-such post, but I really try to not run away with it. I try to recognize my visceral response as quickly as possible, remind myself that I don't have to run with it, and try to redirect my thoughts. If I go off the rails, it's not the poster's responsibility, nor is it Bob's. Each time I succeed in not going where I don't want to go in the first place, I consider a victory. When I fail, I review it after calming down, remind myself that I can treat myself better next time.
Bob, is that one type of shield you're referring to?
poster:Moishe Pipik
thread:1055625
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20131211/msgs/1056331.html