Posted by Dr. Bob on December 14, 2013, at 1:26:17
In reply to Oh forget it., posted by Dinah on December 12, 2013, at 19:31:21
> Compassionate posters are here. But they may or may not agree with you. Surely you would know better than I if there is a large press of people asking that Lou be allowed to post whatever he wants
Asking that someone be allowed to post whatever they want isn't the only way to express compassion.
> I don't think I like the idea of you deciding that if posters are compassionate, they will respond in the way you wish.
True, there are other ways to express compassion. For example, asking that someone be allowed to post whatever they want.
> I may be compassionate towards a person who occasionally slings sh*t, but I have zero compassion towards slinging sh*t. Is one supposed to? How about compassion for the person on the receiving end? Where's your compassion for that person?
I usually try to differentiate between the person and the behavior. Option 7 referred to the person.
It's fine, and in fact encouraged, to express compassion for the person on the receiving end. It's not either-or.
> Oh yes, I forgot. Your perception is that they don't need any help from you but should handle it themselves or with what help their friends can lend. Or if not just be quiet about it so as not to disturb you. Or leave.
My feeling is that posters who don't have friends need protection from me more than posters who do.
It isn't about disturbing me. It's about being supportive. Do you think I'd be here if I didn't want to be disturbed?
> We'll never understand each other. It's not worth it to continue.
We might not. But it's worth it to me to continue to try.
Bob
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