Posted by alexandra_k on October 28, 2013, at 21:39:39
In reply to Re: extra money » alexandra_k, posted by Poet on October 28, 2013, at 10:28:25
> I pretend to talk to people on my cell phone all the time so people leave me alone.
yeah. i hear that a lot of people do this. isn't that awful??? why should one have to??? why do the rowdy masses get to ruin things for everyone else???
> December 8th will come quickly and then you can leave your physically and emotionally immature flatmates behind. I couldn't take living with 17-year-olds who think they're all grown up.yeah. a huge part of the problem is that they are children, yeah. i forget that i am used to emotionally mature 18 year olds (e.g., first year university students). i forget that they are... some of the most mature 18 year olds that there are. most are significantly less mature than that... and the two across the hallway... they really aren't any better than the two 13 year old girls that were driving me nuts earlier. the difference was that i had some kind of limited authority over the 13 year olds because they were just 13. whereas in this case...
the 'party line' seems to be that they are quiet 80% of the time (because they are asleep / at school 80% of the time). so i need to suck up the fact that they are entitled to make noise the rest of the time.
i replied to this via email (so people can read it over the 9 or 12 or 30 f*ck*ng times that they need in order to comprehend)... that they can make noise 100% of the time up the other end of the house, in the other 3 houses, or anywhere else in the world, really. that i like to listen to loud music in my room too but i wear headphones to do so out of consideration for others who may be sleeping. that i manage to not wake them up 100% of the time, not prevent / interrupt their study / work 100% of the time and all i was asking was for this basic consideration to be extended back to me. that students do better when they are well rested and when they have quiet study spaces available to them. whether they choose to utilize them or not is a separate issue. student accommodation should at least be obligated to provide the opportunity.
i... don't think they framed the issue in that way.
anyway... the head lady said she would talk to them... and things were in fact quiet last night (i think because they went next door to socialize which is totally find by me).
i just can't believe that this interpretation didn't occur to them.
it isn't poverty. it is bad management. incomprehension of what the kids need / what is good for the kids. i... don't know what to say. sometimes... the road to hell is paved by good intentions.
of course what they need is for one on one attention to teach them how to study effectively in a quiet space. they seem to think i'm being selfish in studying in my room rather than modeling study in a communal area. they don't get that watching me study would be like their primary kids trying to learn rugby by watching the all blacks...
it doesn't seem to translate...
i don't know what to say.
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