Posted by Partlycloudy on October 27, 2013, at 8:04:14
In reply to Re: extra money, posted by alexandra_k on October 27, 2013, at 0:14:50
I am almost in a similar situation here. I really value my solitude and feel that it allows me to get on better with others. My husband, though, doesn't have a clear idea of boundaries. We worked extensively on it in therapy together, and it is the one element I am holding him to.
It takes a lot of energy and vigilance on my part to do it. It isn't even a personal agenda with him, as in, "I want to spend as much together as we can," as much a vestige of how his parents were with each other. So I just won't let go of it. If it means getting in the car and going to a cafe (this is America, I can't WALK anywhere useful), then I don't hesitate doing it.
Another helpful item has been noise cancelling headphone. The prices are all over the map, but I found that ones that cover my entire ear work best. Mine even take batteries. Awesome invention. Save up for those and your quality of life will improve dramatically. Cross my heart.
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