Posted by alexandra_k on September 5, 2013, at 1:50:59
In reply to Re: Ideal Therapist, posted by baseball55 on September 1, 2013, at 19:50:22
I have a special kind of transference that I get with older guys, too. In my case I think is because I attached to my father as a relatively safe figure. Well... Distant rather than invasive. And it is nicer to long to be closer than to feel invaded, I think. If one really had to choose.
> I think he understood at the outset that I was not going to be an easy patient.
That makes me think that he was careful with you. And perhaps understanding / forgiving of your transference issues.
> I would have left my husband for him in a heartbeat, but he wasn't even remotely available.It does seem to be a human phenomenon that we most want that which we (only just) cannot have.
> He was always compassionate and kind, but he talked always about what we were working on and reminding my that this was work, not just a fantasy friendship for hire.
That makes me think that he had your interests in mind. I think that is important. That is also rare. Really very hard to find.
> I could go on and on. I have never loved or respected anyone in my whole life as much as I loved and respected him.
That is wonderful. I'm so happy that you have had a good experience with that. 6 years is a long time... Opiates is a hard one. Sounds like you have done really well, indeed.
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