Posted by alexandra_k on April 28, 2013, at 3:33:47
In reply to Re: tested, posted by alexandra_k on April 28, 2013, at 3:25:28
i really am an introvert.
extroverts will say they understand
mostly because language serves an affiliative function for them,
more than a literal truth-tracking one
(which is why they are so hopeless at non face-to-face correspondance)i can tell people that in terms of a flat...
i'm looking for a place where people have their own life
to be getting on with
so i can do my own thing
and of course people say they understand
but they inevitably rely on me for social contact
and in time...
it wears me out.i can be good at social contact.
like how grandparents can be good at babysitting.when you only have to do it for a couple hours
and you are refreshed and prepared when you start
it is easy to pay attention to respond rather than react to be on form
it is the constant demands that impinge on your own needs that drag you down in time, though
that is what makes it hard.i'd like to help people. for reals.
i believe i could be good at it too
if i limit the contact time.one of the best things about uni: 50 minute block classes.
50 minutes on. then 3 hours to decompress. that's about me.and now i'm finding i'm expected to meander around for 2 hours...
not really expected to pay totally much focused attention
just kind of enjoying the hanging out as wellonly i'm not and i don't
because its not me.
i'm a philosopher for reals.
you don't know who / what you are until you try something else...
you assume everyone is just like you till it really hits you in the face they are not.i need to get out of here.
people are incapable of leaving me alone.
and if i'm not mostly alone i can't function.i see now why it was the academic board for medical admissions that didn't like me. at least htey had the good grace to decline me for the obvious poorness of fit.
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