Posted by emmanuel98 on January 24, 2012, at 20:48:52
In reply to Re: I'm upset about an exchange with my therapist » emmanuel98, posted by Dinah on January 23, 2012, at 22:30:56
I guess that's similar to the feelings you're having about the DBT therapist? It's never pleasant, no matter how reasonable it is, to have someone say they don't want to see you at the same rate they see others.
This didn't bother me at all though. I got her concerns and my p-doc met with us both and brought it up as an issue. I told her at first that I didn't think I could pay as much as she was asking, that my husband would object to that monthly outlay and that I would talk to him. She said in the meantime, she would search her heart and decide what she could handle. I found this impressive and so did my p-doc. She would search her heart and think about how much I meant, how much she felt concerned and responsible, how much she might resent me for paying so little. I felt we came to a fair and reasonable agreement. I am well aware that I have been a difficult patient.
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> Yet if I'm totally totally honest, I'll say that I like the feeling of power I get by paying him 1 1/2 times his insurance rate.This is interesting. I've never thought of the money in terms of power. Maybe because insurance pays. But I've always felt like my p-doc holds the power, since I love him more than he love me and need him more than he needs me. Maybe part of it is knowing that he is fairly well-to-do. He once told me, when I worried out loud that he didn't want to see me, that he didn't need the money.
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