Posted by Dinah on September 2, 2011, at 17:14:04
In reply to HELP/What do You Think of This?! Betrayal I Feel, posted by sassyfrancesca on September 2, 2011, at 15:43:57
I'm confused. Will this person be doing therapy with your therapist? Was she interested in doing therapy with your therapist?
You were the one who proposed the terms for your continued therapy, weren't you? Did you try proposing the same terms your friend offer, and did he reject that?
If I understand correctly, I don't see any proof that he betrayed you in any way. I can understand your reluctance with bringing it up though. My therapist probably would understand my testing him, but I doubt he'd be pleased. I wouldn't be eager for that conversation at all.
I think we all want to feel special to our therapists. And to feel that they really do want to see us, even without a large financial incentive. It is perhaps best, in a practical sense, not to test this too directly. One thing I've sensed, from what you've said over the years, is that you aren't going to get your needs met by him in the way you'd like. To look for him to care in the way you'd like him to care is to probably continue to subject yourself to pain.
Maybe it would be best to redouble your efforts to find love and caring outside a professional relationship.
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