Posted by emmanuel98 on July 18, 2011, at 21:25:30
In reply to Re: Motherly Therapist and Detached Daddy Psychiatrist, posted by lucielu2 on July 18, 2011, at 8:09:37
Transference is so hard. A couple of months ago, I met with my T and p-doc together and we (they) decided she (my T) should be my primary therapist. My p-doc said my transference issues were almost psychotic. I got very upset by this and asked him what he meant. He said I saw him as wonderful and he wasn't so wonderful. I said I don't see you as wonderful in some sort of magical way. It's just that you have been wonderful to me. I still can't quite come to grips with all my feelings toward him. I don't feel this way with my T at all. She is lovely and helpful and I am grateful to her, but even after agreeing that she would be primarily responsible for my care, I still wanted (needed) to see my p-doc weekly. I just need to see him.
As far as children leaving home, I have just one daughter and she moved 5 hours away to go to school 5 years ago. She kept in close touch and we visited regularly until this year. Now, at 23, she is really into her own life and neglects to call or email regularly. When she first left, I was in my second year of therapy and was working through a lot of my sense of loss, so it wasn't so bad. But now I feel really cut off from her and get very depressed and sad about it. I know that she will go through this phase and reconnect again (we were extremely close) but it's hard.
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