Posted by pegasus on April 25, 2011, at 12:47:00
In reply to Re: perplexed » lola2, posted by wittgensteinz on April 25, 2011, at 12:17:25
I used to have this issue big time with a previous therapist. In the end, I think I was angry that he couldn't protect me better from the pain of therapy. So, there was an element of transference. In that I also wish someone had been able to protect me from all of crap in in my earlier life, or at least see what I was going through and give me some guidance so I could protect myself. At the time it was too late for my T to do the former, and he was trying mightily to do the latter. Yet, I often felt it wasn't enough.
Also, there was an element of resistance. I was mad at the universe because I had to experience this pain to get better. It wasn't fair! So, I didn't want to do it.
But in the end, I had to face that life is unfair, and other people can't usually do everything we'd want them to do. I'm better now at finding what there is for me to do in the situation, and focusing on that.
Sorry this is all about me. I'm hoping maybe there is something of interest for your situation in all of this, as well.
- P
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